You are in touch with your emotions, and sometimes you react before you think. The good news: you don’t tamp down your feelings. The bad news: you sometimes say or do things that you later wish you could take back.
You do not live your life on an even keel; you do not go for long periods without experiencing some mood swings.
You appreciate art, beauty, and design; you know that they are not superficial but absolutely crucial to living the good life. You have good taste, and you’re proud of it. Those with a high score on the “aesthetic” trait are often employed in literary or artistic professions, enjoy domestic activities — doing things around the house — and are enthusiastic about the arts, reading, and travel.
You don’t think it’s pretentious to be moved by art and beauty. You’re not one of those who believe it doesn’t matter what something looks like as long as it does its job.
You like to get to the bottom of things. You’re not content knowing what someone did; you want to know why they did it.
You don’t simply take things as they are and move on; you’re not content skimming along on the surface; you don’t feel you’re wasting time by digging for the meaning of things.
You have a genuine interest in other people. You’re a natural host, and are always thinking about how you can increase the happiness of those around you. When friends have problems or are in trouble, you’re usually the first person they turn to for aid and comfort. Scoring high on the “warm” trait suggests that you are among those who enjoy domestic activities — doing things around the house — and are enthusiastic about charitable work, helping others, and making the world a better place.
You don’t always say exactly what you’re thinking; you don’t like the idea of causing anyone pain because of your criticism.
You are willing to take the time to find out what’s going on with other people, especially if they’re in distress. You’re a good listener, you don’t criticize, and you offer unbiased, respectful, honest advice when it’s requested. With a high score on the “understanding” trait, it is likely that you are enthusiastic about charitable work, helping others, and making the world a better place.
You don’t feel the need to impose your standards on others or say things that, even though true, cause pain.
You are an honest, fair person. You don’t lie or cheat to get ahead. You treat others with respect and hope for the same in return.
You do not feel that you are above the rules that everyone else follows; you are definitely not willing to do whatever it takes to get ahead.
You are gentle with others, both physically and emotionally. You are careful not to upset people and go out of your way to find the nicest way to say something. You naturally focus on the fact that the world is full of wonderful people, places, and things. More often than not, people with a high score on the “tender” trait enjoy spending time with children, love romantic movies, and are enthusiastic about making the world a better place.
You don’t think of yourself as tough-minded or gruff, nor do you need to be seen as some kind of objective source of truth and rationality.
You are in touch with your own feelings, which helps put you in touch with the feelings of others.
You don’t buy the logic that your happiness comes ahead of everyone else’s because unless you’re happy you’re incapable of making anyone else happy.
You would rather hang out with others than spend time alone, and you’d far rather be doing something with your friends than just sitting around. You’re happy in a crowded room, club, stadium, or auditorium.
You’re not a private person who is ill at ease in a group; you don’t view excessive socializing as a waste of time.
You behave in a confident and forceful manner, take charge of the situation, raise your hand in class, stand up for what you think is right, and lead others. Among those who have a high score on the “assertive” trait, many have jobs in which they are valued for their organizational skills as well as their talent for supervising others.
You are not interested in fading into the woodwork, leaving everything to fate, taking more time than necessary to accomplish a task, or avoiding confrontation.
http://psychcentral.com/personality-patterns/
…interesting
Hello again tumblr, it has been a long time. Moved back to the east bay and i’m finding that i have so much time to be with myself, and maybe too much time. im realizing more and more that besides my family and some friends i have moved on from this little town of mine and yearn to be elsewhere, out and about, exploring and being around characters and personalities those different from typical suburban soccer mom type folks. This transition back has been so difficult for me lately and at times it feels lonely. Although in the past year I have learned so much more about myself, maybe things I have already known but never asked to come face to face with. TRUST has been the big one in this past year, trust in myself, in others, the relationships with these folks, and in the world, to know that i am in good hands and things will work out the way they’re suppose to. Taking part of the day to have a talk with a good friend and professor, something she said really stuck with me and i’m slowly learning and trying to apply this to my every day thoughts and decisions: don’t ask yourself why you can’t…[ex. why you feel you can’t get ur shit together, etc] but ask yourself how can you…how can you take the steps to be a better person, to the person you want to be and accept the person you are, how can you accomplish your goals and overcome your fears and insecurities, but this nothing without action, although im learning this part does take time, internalizing this how part to flip my situation and mood into something more positive and pushes me forward toward some kind of growth/transformation, takes time but will come.
anyways as for other things some friendships have been rocky lately, i somehow always of this knack for saying or doing things at the wrong time, i’ll work on it… and my relationship is learning and growing [although with its share of rough patches, i have found home and happiness in this one and have realized that I would be stupid to let a good thing slip away because of the insecurities I have with myself, especially if the person is pushing you and helping you to be better, you must learn to push and help yourself as well or you will get consumed by the stories and thoughts of your fears that you put in your head and in the end you will only find that you are the reason for why they came true not the other person…so safe to say that i am doing part and will continue to do my part because this a different kind of love. yes love is work, and this probably is the only one i have ever really put an effort into but they have always believed in me, and i in them and when you believe its not just for a min or just for now, but its for always. alright i’m corny but wth im happy] anyway, as for family, i love them so much, but this being back home thing can be quite suffocating.
alrightie…there’s my sort of little vent to you all, maybe you learned something or didn’t, it’s cool. maybe ill update again in a few months lol.
“Dude…say something”
There I did love. happy!? Love you!!!
<3 2D roomies
“Find a girl who can make you happy when you are sad, who understands your imperfections and see’s them perfectly, who waits patiently just to hear your voice before she goes to bed every night. The one who will redefine the word trust, who is perfect from the moment you laid eyes on her. Find the one who can’t keep her sparkling eyes off you, who can’t stop smiling every time you touch her. Wait for the girl that believes in you and your purpose, who doesn’t care what you do, or how much money you make. When things are so good that you don’t want to go to sleep at night because your life is better than a dream.You will lie in bed and whisper to yourself while the whole world knows… “That’s her”.” — Anonymous (via modernmemoirs) (via sbmerlyn) (via cariiins)
flipped: Wait for the guy…
(im such a sucker for these romanticisms lol)
Hello opportunity…
For months now I have been lazy, scared, finding reasons why not to take the dive, analyzing and arguing, but wth! fuck it moment.
i figure with some help/ little push from wise friends with wise words, they make good points.
i figure usually the things your are scared of are usually the most worth while.
I have a feeling it will be…with that said lets see what turns this road will take me through next. damn.
UNFORTUNATELY, I wish I was more patient with this ride and the sweet time happiness takes…this was kind of a perfect quote to see because i’m stuck, having to write this paper that i cant concentrate on bc im UNFORTUNATELY stuck thinking about why i cant get out of this dilemma im in bc im scared that when i do i know my impatience will get the best of me and i know thats selfish and unfair to myself bc im not allowing the experiences waiting to come into my life enter bc even if the changes make you wiser i’ve never been good at accepting change once comfortable unless forced…boo me
by:starbuckie
The child
is made of one hundred.
The child has
a hundred languages
a hundred hands
a hundred thoughts
a hundred ways of thinking
of playing, of speaking.
A hundred always a hundred
ways of listening
of marvelling, of loving
a hundred joys
for singing and understanding
a hundred worlds
to discover
a hundred worlds
to invent
a hundred worlds
to dream.
The child has
a hundred languages
(and a hundred hundred hundred more)
but they steal ninety-nine.
The school and the culture
separate the head from the body.
They tell the child:
to think without hands
to do without head
to listen and not to speak
to understand without joy
to love and to marvel
only at Easter and at Christmas.
They tell the child:
to discover the world already there
and of the hundred
they steal ninety-nine.
They tell the child:
that work and play
reality and fantasy
science and imagination
sky and earth
reason and dream
are things
that do not belong together.
And thus they tell the child
that the hundred is not there.
The child says:
No way. The hundred is there.
- Loris Malaguzzi (translated by Lella Gandini)
So went down to the pier in the city with a couple of friends and brought about flashes and feelings of moments in my life that felt so simple and effortless and I miss the friendship that was shared and the smiles and laughter exchanged however as I stood there with the cold wind passing through and the sound of the silent waves I took a deep breath that did not wash away the moments but refreshed the feelings felt to best fit where I am in my life right now. I love being by any form of water not like a pool haha but more like a lake or an ocean, the bay and thinking the air the waves helps gives me clarity and brings peace to my thoughts and brings me back to the simplicity of enjoying life relaxed and thankful. I know and feel that I have come somewhat far and surpassed some of the expectations I had for myself but I don’t know where I will go after this semester ends and Im fine with that. from different directions Im being fed what to do and where to go after but I can’t say i dont know where my next step lies but I have faith that it will come…I’m happy where I am at the moment and I’m taking it in each day as much as possible
“No matter how careful you are, there’s going to be the sense you missed something, the collapsed feeling under your skin that you didn’t experience it all. There’s that fallen heart feeling that you rushed right through the moments where you should’ve been paying attention.” — ~ Chuck Palahniuk (via gatekeeper)
“
Outside the station, she stands with her child on the side of the street, taking pictures of cars.
You think she’s insane. Until, one day, you notice that she’s taking pictures of the license plates of the cars her child gets into.
Because you look. But you do not see.
And she walks out the shop with bags full of cat food. You think she’s some crazy cat lady until you find out, she has no cats.
Because you eat. But you do not taste.
It’s been a while since their last album but he assures you, he’s doing just fine these days, white flecks in his nostrils. Then he asks you if he can spend the night on your couch, even though it stinks.
Because you sniff. But you do not smell.
And they say “Just OK” when you ask them how school was. Then you wonder what they’re hiding until you find their diary and the last entry reads “I wish you’d give me some privacy.”
Because you listen. But you do not hear.
And they’ve got a bruise over their eye and you run the tips of your fingers over it and ask them how it happened. You believe them. Until it happens again.
Because you touch. But you do not feel.
And they walk past you everyday, one million stories, each waiting to be told. Waiting for you to ask.
Because you live. But very few, love.
” — via: I wrote this for you (via kari-shma) (via lovebot) (via gatekeeper)